You Don’t Need Fixing. You Need to Reconnect to Yourself

angela r
Aug 9
3 min read

If you’re like most women I work with, you’ve already done the work. Therapy. Coaching. Meditation. Yoga. Self-help books. The endless search for the “thing” that will finally make you feel whole, happy, and free.

And yet… you still wake up with that low hum of anxiety. The fatigue that doesn’t quite go away. The tightness in your chest or the knot in your gut that flares up when life gets busy. Maybe you’ve even hit that wall of burnout, where you can function, but not thrive.

You’ve been trying to fix yourself. But here’s the hard truth: you were never broken in the first place.

The Problem with “Fixing”

When you focus only on what’s wrong, broken, or not enough, you keep your nervous system stuck in survival mode. Your body learns to scan for danger, for what needs improvement, for what still isn’t right.

It’s exhausting. And it keeps you disconnected from the very thing that could change everything...your aliveness.

What If You Shifted the Focus?

Instead of fixing, you can start reconnecting. Not to perform for someone else. Not to check another “self-improvement” box. But to return to yourself.

This is the work I do with my clients:

We stabilize your physiology so you can feel safe enough to truly rest.
We build a more flexible nervous system so you can respond to life instead of reacting .
We reconnect you to your desires, your essence, and the parts of you that have been waiting to be honored.

When you do this, something beautiful happens. Trauma, unmet needs, and old patterns naturally rise to the surface, not to overwhelm you, but to be felt, tended to, and processed. Your body no longer needs to grip so tightly. Chronic symptoms—fatigue, anxiety, gut issues, pain, often begin to soften.

The Missing Piece: Conscious Sexuality

There’s a part of this conversation that’s often left out, and for women, it’s a game-changer. Your sexuality isn’t just about sex. It’s about life force, vitality, and self-expression.

Most of us were never taught to truly listen to our bodies here. We learned to perform, to prioritize someone else’s pleasure, or to disconnect completely. We made this part of ourselves small, hidden, or unimportant.

When this part of you is ignored or frozen, it doesn’t just affect intimacy, it affects how you speak, set boundaries, rest, connect, and carry stress. It can even feed chronic symptoms.

Conscious sexuality isn’t about becoming “good in bed. ”It’s about remembering what it feels like to be fully alive in your own body. To have choice. To feel freedom. To know yourself deeply.

From Surviving to Thriving

The real work isn’t about achieving some final, polished version of yourself. It’s about slowing down enough to feel, tend, and uncover the life you’ve been missing.

When you tend to what’s been blocking your natural flow, you begin to move out of survival and into living. And from there, thriving is possible.

How We Can Work Together

I work with women through:

1:1 Somatic Experiencing sessions – deep, personalized nervous system work
Somatic Women’s Circles – community healing and connection
Conscious Sexuality coaching – reclaiming your aliveness and confidence
Free 60-minute consultation – so we can explore what this work might look like for you