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Welcome, beautiful bold soul.

This is about you. This is safe. This is new territory, in a good way.

Finally, real education about your pleasure, your body, your desire.
No shame. No pressure. Just truth.

Because no one ever taught you what you really needed to know about your body, your pleasure, or your desire.
It’s time to change that.

Your sexuality. Your pace. Your truth.
This is where you remember what’s yours.

Not performance. Not pressure.
Just real connection to yourself.

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Conscious Sexuality: Understanding Yourself, Your Pleasure, and Your Needs

Sexuality is still one of the most taboo topics we face as adults. Many of us didn’t receive clear or honest education about our bodies or pleasure. Often, what we did get was confusing, shame-filled, or centered around a male model of sex that doesn’t reflect how women’s pleasure actually works.

This leaves many women feeling wrong, unsatisfied, confused, embarrassed, or alone.

Conscious sexuality is about changing that. It’s about learning how your pleasure anatomy works, what you need to feel truly connected to yourself, and how to relate to your desires without shame or confusion.

This isn’t about becoming an “epic lover” or meeting any kind of external expectation. It’s about:

  • Understanding your body and what brings you pleasure

  • Knowing how orgasms work for you, and what’s possible

  • Recognizing your needs and boundaries clearly

  • Building a deeper, kinder connection with yourself

  • Creating space to connect more easily and authentically with your partner

This work helps you move beyond myths, shame, and misinformation so you can experience your sexuality as a natural, joyful, and grounded part of your life.

When you understand yourself better, connecting with others becomes easier and more fulfilling.

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What women are saying

"I honestly didn’t know what to expect when I started this work. I thought maybe I’d get some tools or techniques, but what I actually found was way deeper. For the first time in my life, I felt like my body wasn’t something to 'fix' or push through, it was something to listen to.

Angela created such a safe, gentle space where I could feel things I didn’t even know I was holding, about desire, about shame, about what I thought being a woman ‘should’ be.

I’ve spent years feeling disconnected, from my body, my pleasure, even my partner. This work gave me a way back. Not overnight, not perfectly, but real, honest shifts that I can feel.

I can actually want now. Not perform, not pretend, want. That feels huge."

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"I used to think I was broken because I could never really orgasm, or if I did, it felt forced or lucky. I was always in my head, thinking too much, wondering what was supposed to happen, if I was doing it wrong.

I’ve tried so many things, books, podcasts, even some workshops, but nothing really clicked.

With Angela, it was the first time I didn’t feel like I had to perform or get somewhere. She helped me slow down and actually feel my body, not just think about it.

I realized I’d been trying so hard that I wasn’t even present. When I let go of the pressure, something shifted. Pleasure didn’t feel like a struggle anymore, it felt possible. Like it belonged to me."

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Why Conscious Sexuality Matters

Sexuality is still a taboo topic for many of us. Most of us didn’t get real, honest education about our pleasure or our bodies, or what we got was confusing, shame-filled, or just plain wrong.

Much of what passes for sex education centers on a male model of pleasure, leaving out the way women’s bodies and desires actually work. This can leave you feeling wrong, unsatisfied, confused, embarrassed, and alone.

Here, we do something different. This is adult education on a taboo topic, clear, compassionate, and grounded in what your body truly needs. You’ll learn to understand your pleasure anatomy in a way that feels real, accessible, and freeing. We work to squash the shame most of us carry and open up a new way of relating to yourself and your sensuality.

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What Conscious Sexuality Means Here:

  • Honoring your body’s signals without shame or pressure

  • Reconnecting to desire on your own terms, slowly, gently, and safely

  • Moving beyond “performance” or obligation into curiosity and self-kindness

  • Using somatic awareness and nervous system tools to open space for pleasure, even when energy is low

  • Creating a new, grounded relationship with your erotic self that feels real and sustainable

This work isn’t about “fixing", it’s about tuning into what your body truly needs now and reclaiming intimacy from a place of trust and presence.

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Who This Is For:

  • Women exhausted by the cycle of “try harder” with no relief

  • Those who feel disconnected from their bodies and their desire

  • Women who want to feel seen, safe, and held in their sensuality, without judgment

  • Anyone ready to shift from surviving to truly thriving in their intimate life

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How We Work Together:

Through gentle somatic practices, attuned conversations, and nervous system recalibration, you’ll learn to listen to your body’s wisdom and invite pleasure that feels nourishing, not taxing. You’ll rebuild your relationship with your sexuality with patience and grace, honoring where you are now while opening to new possibilities.

If you’re ready to stop pushing through and start showing up for yourself in a way that feels good and true, conscious sexuality can be a powerful step on your journey.

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My Approach: The VITA™ Method

I’m trained in the VITA™ (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) Method—a trauma-informed, science-backed pathway to conscious sexuality, intimacy, and personal empowerment.

The VITA™ Method integrates:

  • Neuroscience – understanding how the brain and nervous system shape patterns of arousal, safety, and connection.

  • Embodiment Practices – cultivating presence, body awareness, and authentic expression through breath, sound, movement, and sensation.

  • Trauma Resolution – gently unwinding stored stress, fear, and shame from the body so that pleasure, joy, and safety can naturally emerge.

  • Emotional Release Work – creating space to feel and process emotions that have been held or suppressed, clearing the way for greater aliveness.

  • Tantric & Taoist Wisdom – honoring ancient teachings that view sexuality as sacred, life-giving energy, not something to be hidden, rushed, or performed.

  • Modern Coaching & Mindset Tools – bringing clarity, intention, and choice to how you engage with your desires, boundaries, and relationships.

This approach is always at your pace. It’s body-led, consent-based, and designed to support lasting transformation, not temporary fixes.

 

This work unfolds at your own pace, there’s no rush, no pressure, and no heaviness. It’s gentle, respectful, and always centered on what feels right for you. To be clear, there is never any sexual contact between you and me during sessions. This is your safe space to explore, learn, and reconnect on your terms.

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Key Things We Explore Together

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1. Rewriting Your Sexual Narrative:

• Many of us carry outdated or limiting beliefs about sex, intimacy, and our bodies. Together, we’ll identify and rewrite these narratives, creating space for more pleasure, connection, and authenticity.

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2. The Keys to Orgasm:

Orgasm isn’t just about technique, it’s about creating a foundation of safety and connection within your body. We’ll explore what blocks your access to pleasure and how to open pathways for deeper satisfaction.

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3. Embodied Sense of Safety:

• Your body’s ability to feel safe is foundational to experiencing intimacy and pleasure. We’ll work on creating that safety, so you feel grounded, confident, and open in your body.

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4. Attuning to Your Body’s Signals:

• I’m sure you’ve experienced what most women have, overriding your body’s signals just to please your partner, feeling stuck, unpleased, or unsure of what even turns you on. Together, we’ll explore these patterns and build a new relationship with your body that honors its needs.

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5. Boundaries and Needs:

• Understanding your needs and setting clear boundaries is transformative for your sexuality. We’ll explore how to identify and communicate these, creating a foundation for satisfaction in the bedroom and beyond.

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6. You’ll gain a practical understanding of: how your body works, explore your pleasure anatomy, and learn the components of orgasm, empowering you to experience deeper connection, pleasure, and intimacy with yourself.

 

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If you're here, do you

  • Find it difficult to experience pleasure?

  • Can't get out of your head while in the midst of intimacy with partner(s)or when self pleasuring ?

  • Experience shame around your sexuality?

  • Not know what turns you on?

  • Struggle getting turned on?

  • Avoid sex or pleasure all together?

  • Now sure how to pleasure yourself?

  • Not connecting to your partner(s) in the way you crave and long for?

  • Feel unsatisfied with your orgasm or not have them at all?

  • Feel depleted of radiance?

  • Have trouble with your sexuality?

  • Feel a bit hopeless?

  • Hide your body?

  • Experience numbness, pain, or nothingness in your breasts, chest, or sexual center?

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If this sounds like you, do you desire:

  • A deep love and trust for your body and sexuality

  • To feel confident in your sexual expression

  • To ignite your entire body and pleasure systems

  • Knowing what turns you on in and out of the bedroom

  • To gain knowledge of that instrument of yours (your body & pleasure anatomy)

  • Generate profound sexual experiences with embodied confidence

  • Recognize what your body needs and ask for it at any given moment

  •  Learning how to utilize your sexual energy for aliveness, joy, healing and pleasure

  • Awaken the wisdom of your womb, breasts, and chest, even if you don't possess these physical body parts.

  • Integrating your emotions with your body.

  • Awaken the wisdom of your orgasm

  • Learn the potent tool; sex magic to manifest your dream life.

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This is where I come in:

  • Learning how to utilize your sexual energy for vitality and radiance

  • Nourishing your body and nervous system from your pleasure and orgasm.

  • Integrating your emotions with your body.

  • Learning about the medicine of your orgasm.

  • To learn tools, so that you manifest and create a life beyond your wildest dreams

  • Upgrading your entire nervous system with love and sexual empowerment so you can live a fulfilled life with no regrets.

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I offer sexuality work because it’s a vital part of healing and wholeness that often gets overlooked or misunderstood. Many women come to me carrying shame, confusion, or disconnection around their bodies and pleasure. This work creates a safe space to explore and reclaim that part of themselves without judgment or pressure.

Sexuality isn’t just about sex, it’s about connection, desire, and feeling fully alive in your body. Helping women understand their own pleasure anatomy, dismantle harmful myths, and tune into what truly feels good supports deeper self-knowledge and resilience.

I chose to offer this because it’s deeply transformative. When women reconnect with their sensual selves, they often experience more joy, confidence, and freedom, not just in their intimate lives but in how they show up in the world. It’s an essential piece of thriving, not just surviving.

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​​So, whether you're single or in a relationship, rediscovering your sensuality will liberate you like nothing else.​​​
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Curious, start your journey to deeper connection and chronic thriving?

Book a 3-session package for $333

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Let’s create space for you to feel truly seen, heard, and alive.

Schedule your consult today.

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Contact

Please get in touch; I would love to create a safe and nurturing space for you to explore this tender topic.

Escondido therapy services

(858) 800-8014

thesomashift@gmail.com

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